Musings Of A Worn Clay Figure

All anybody wants is to be understood.

“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow; but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.”

—   Agatha Christie (via elige)

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It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.

You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.

But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.

Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.

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David Cain, “Procrastination Is Not Laziness” (via pawneeparksdepartment)

…oh. This explains a lot.

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“Faeries, come take me out of this dull world,
For I would ride with you upon the wind,
Run on the top of the dishevelled tide,
And dance upon the mountains like a flame.”

—    William Butler Yeats, “The Land of Heart’s Desire,” 1894  (via bregma)

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“Your brain is wired for survival, not happiness. That is why it keeps bringing up negative emotions, past mistakes and worries about the future. Because of this wiring, you can get stuck in repetitive cycles of self-criticism, worry and fear that interfere with your ability to enjoy the present moment.”

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Why anxiety is so hard to manage (and how to fix it)

That’s why you gotta Live from your Heart💗

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“I think the experience of feeling isolated, of not fitting in, creates the urge to explore.”

—   Hussein Chalayan  (via elige)

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“I love you more than my own skin and even though you don’t love me the same way, you love me anyways, don’t you? And if you don’t, I’ll always have the hope that you do, and i’m satisfied with that. Love me a little. I adore you.”

—   Frida Kahlo  (via weaverofstars)

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“Will you come with me to the mountains? It will hurt at first, until your feet are hardened. Reality is harsh to the feet of shadows. But will you come?”

—   C.S. Lewis, The Great Divorce  (via corvidae-and-crossroads)

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“no matter how wounded.
i can smell life from a mile away.”

—   nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)

“I don’t just want your heart. I want your flesh, your skin and blood and bones, your voice, your thoughts, your pulse and most of all your fingerprints, everywhere.”

—   Isobel Thrilling (via perfect)

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I want a trouble-maker for a lover;
blood spiller, blood drinker, a heart of flame.

Who quarrels with the sky and fights with fate.

Who burns like fire on the rushing sea.

—   Rumi (via lovequotesrus)

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